Today’s Guest Blogger is Karen Porter, aka Mama Porter. I was excited when Karen said “Yes!” to sharing some thoughts on love and knew her sense of humor and big heart would come through in her post. Thank you Karen for sharing your message of love! xoxo Kat
My younger son was born on Valentine’s Day, so that day in our family is less about hearts and flowers and more about getting birthday and star shaped balloons from the Dollar Store.
In the movies love is candlelight, music, roses, sacrifice, perfect dialogue, and lots of seamlessly orchestrated, no mess sex.
I have had my share of flowers and not one moment of my life has been seamlessly orchestrated. The only perfect dialogue happens in my head after the actual conversation is done.
Real life love can be anything. In my life love has taken many forms.
Happily playing CandyLand for the 478th time
Reading storybooks so many times that every word is committed to memory
A drawing of a rainbow and cat titled “Happy Berthday Moma”
A latte delivered to help wake me up
Going to church with a parent long after you stop believing
Making food the family loves that I can’t eat
Sitting in a hospital room all day so the patient is not alone when she wakes up
Witnessing daily decompensation and deterioration caused by a brain tumor
Reassuring a dying friend that his wife will never be hungry or homeless
Knitting a sweater, cutting off six inches and re-knitting the ribbing until it is the perfect length
Keeping promises that are not easy to keep
Never revealing being a secret friend
Giving back-scratches even when I am ready to go to sleep
Laughing then crying then laughing again
Being generous with time, talents, stuff and money
Feeling an inner glow when someone else is celebrated
Knowing that ‘The Adventures of Milo and Otis’ will always be ‘Cat Dog Movie’
Celebrating success in many forms (the celebrations and the successes)
Taking away driving privileges for six months after the first drinking/driving occurrence
Supporting a son to keep loving his friend through a rough patch
Standing beside a son owning up to a mistake
Being supportive of a son leaving home when he is ready
Being a chemo buddy
Changing soiled clothes and bedding for the young, the elderly and in between
Not misplacing the recording of whatever it is the kids love and you hate
Having traditions and modifying them through the years
Knowing that nothing lasts forever and enjoying what is, no matter how imperfect
Laughing at the same story every time you hear it
Supporting a dream
Being encouraging after a disappointment
Telling your mother it is okay for her to go even when it is the last thing you want
Crying alone and grieving together
Hearing a family members’ laughter
Knowing people vent their anger where they feel safe
Not saying “I told you so”
Taking secrets to the grave
Having uncomfortable discussions
Choosing your battles
Choosing being happy over being right
Balloons from the Dollar Store
And my list goes on. Life goes on. Love goes on long after lists and life ends. Love is bigger than a day or a month but there is nothing bigger than a loved-filled moment. The more of those moments I have, the richer and bigger my life feels. Love, shmuv, it’s all good.
Karen A Porter is the author of Live Your Life With Attitude and Live Your Life With Attitude Workbook/Journal, available on Amazon in print and e-book version.
Currently on the Advisory Board of the non-profit organization Heal My Voice, Karen is a contributing author to all the US Heal My Voice books. Karen co-authored Conscious Choices: An Evolutionary Woman’s Guide to Life.
Karen is an ordained Minister of Spiritual Peacemaking for the Beloved Community. She practices Sound Massage and leads healing meditations using Tibetan Singing Bowls. Karen is a certified Level 1 Qi Gong Instructor and a Certified Sounds Methods Therapist through the American Institute SMT.
To learn more about Karen’s work or to contact her, visit www.mamaporter.com.